“A smooth sea never made for a skilled sailor”
Life can be a myriad of roller coaster rides. There are moments where you feel on top of the world and then there are the opposing sides to life that can make you feel as though you are just scraping by. As they say though, if it weren’t for darkness, an understanding of light could never be obtained. In order to appreciate the good, one has to understand bad. Without hell there would be no heaven.
How does one get through the tough times?
Everyone has their own way of dealing with situations and there is no right or wrong way, there is simply only the way that works for you. However, with that being said, surrounding yourself with the right people can only help in lifting you up.
While friends and family may be the first port of call, it is sometimes also a good idea to seek advise from a person that is removed from the situation. A friend or family member will be able to aid in giving you the advice that you need due to similar experiences they may have had, but sometimes they can be too emotionally involved and logic may not always prevail.
Who are the right people?
If it is an emotional situation you are dealing with, perhaps seeking out a life coach or a psychologist may be a route to look at. Even when experiencing good times, a life coach can still be of a huge benefit. If we look to people such as Tony Robins and the list of clients he has helped get to the top of their game, all would praise the benefits of having such a figure in their life. I can personally speak from experience of having a psychologist on this point. As a person with high ambitions, I often find myself becoming overwhelmed with my goals. The advise that I have been given (through good and bad times) has helped shape me into who I am today and I know will continue doing so for a long time to come. Having a mentor figure in your life whether it be a life coach, psychologist, a person who you look up to, or even a person who has walked a similar path to one you aspire to venture on, will help you with the emotional support you require. You may even have more than one person offering advice on different facets of your life. It is of vital importance though that you do seek out a trustworthy person who can advise you on the topics you seek expert advise on.
Having the right people in your corner doesn’t stop at emotional support. As a sports person it has been imperative for me to have access to physiotherapists, chiropractors, dietitians/ nutritionists and the likes thereof. Not only will a trusted professional get to know your body and help you in times of injury, but they will also help you gain an understanding of how you can get to know yourself and take care of injuries before they even arise. Finding the right medical support is one thing, but finding coaches is another side to having the physical support you require. You don’t need to be a professional athlete to require a coach, but you do need someone to advise you on how to start and moreover, keep motivating you once you’ve started your journey.
We all know that in order to improve on our physical well-being, one has to put in the effort to train. So why do people not see the importance of training the mind? Your mental health is what I believe to be the part of you that is most important to work on. While all there factors of the body, mind and sport, encompass and support one another, I believe that without the strength of your mindset, being able to work on the other two factors would prove to be near impossible.
The purest way of working on your mental health I believe is meditation. However, reading, journaling, spending time alone in nature observing your surroundings are also ways in which to improve on your mental health. Physical exercise also helps improve your mental health. The mind clearing effects running has can be exhilarating, the mind calming effects that Yoga has can be soothing. No matter what sport you are doing, you are releasing negative energy and are gaining endorphin’s which improves not only your mental and physical health but your emotional health too.
While I’m fortunate enough to be able to afford the professionals I need, be they psychologists, doctors, Yoga teachers, meditation classes, I realize not all are in this same position. People view these luxury items as an expense they just cannot afford and I completely understand that. The beauty of living in a world that is so technologically advanced is that ignorance has become a choice.
If you are reading this it means you already have access to the fastest source of information… the internet. Take a free course, research a topic you would like to know more about, listen to a podcast on a topic of interest to you. TED talks, You Tube, iTunes U, MIT OpenCourseWare are but a few search platforms that can provide one with an abundance of information. You do however have to be hungry and curious, it’s the only way you will ever expand and grow your knowledge as well as even self awareness.
Be excited about your journey. I truly believe that the best person you can have in your corner is YOURSELF! Learn to love and respect yourself and everything else will fall into place with ease and grace. If you would like to read more on how to love yourself more, you can read a previous post I wrote here.
If you are already a person you deem to be a professional on a topic (which I believe everyone is in one way or another as we all have experiences), I strongly recommend giving it freely to others that can benefit from the stories of your successes and even pitfalls. When you get to the top, never forget who you are, and who helped get you there along the way. A quote I use often and will continue to use speaks directly to this principal:
Good luck on your journey and just remember you are exactly where you are meant to be! Let us know who the most important person is in your corner and why?